I know what you’re thinking, Erika! Where have you been? Sorry, it has been a while. But even though I have not been writing, doesn’t mean I haven’t been working. But, I’m willing to bet what you’re really thinking is… what in the world is this advice? I’m just gonna go ahead and let one of my dearest ruggers take it from here.
When I was getting closer to 30 I had lost my job, broke up with a long term girlfriend, and moved back home. Through all of the sadness and upset days for me, I didn’t know if I would ever be happy again.
Then I realized that I hated my job that I was let go from, that me and my ex girlfriend were never a good match, and moving home wasn’t so bad. It was a chance to make up for missed time with my family, get back in touch with good friends, and figure out what I wanted.
Along with that within this time, I started my own business as a consultant for new sports franchises. I helped new professional soccer teams in the USL set up their front office and revenue generation programming for the first year in USL as a professional soccer team. And all of these teams have gone on to have major success with USL and I realized it made me most happy at a job to see the success of others that I could share in. So I started to figure out what I wanted in a job.
There was a specific day where I remember that things really changed for me. It was on November 7th, 2014. I went from Long Island to the city for lube wrestling rugby party. It was when I realized I was back in my element. I was doing what I wanted. Having so much fun! And realized if I wanted to be happy, I had to be me and come get me some!!! What I wanted.
So after that day I was contacted by USL. I was lucky enough to write up my own job position for USL as the Director of Club Services, took the position and started my 2nd life and second chance to live life the way I wanted to. I took that and loved my job. I worked as hard as I could but didn’t overdo it at work. I knew I needed a life too. I took that and within two years I helped to grow the USL to places no one ever thought it could be and because of all the hard work I put in, in 2 years, I went from a Director to a VP of Club Services and with that came the raises and the excitement that is just one part of my 2nd life.
When I moved for the job, I went onto Tinder looking for some fun. I met a girl on there. I told her I was just looking for fun and she said she was looking for a meaningful relationship. I told her she was on the wrong site for that, but we should go on a date and see where it went. I said who cares if it doesn’t go well I want this date and want to have some fun. I’m being honest about it and she knows what I’m looking for. I am going to come get me some. On the first date, we went to dinner. I realized after we hung out in my car until after 3 in the morning, knowing I had to wake up in two hours to get up for work, I realized maybe there is something here. So I decided to go out on another date and then another date, then another date. And we dated for about 7 months and she convinced me when we were going to go home for Thanksgiving to go to the Macy’s Day Parade. When I decided to go I knew that I would have never done this for anyone else. I realized having someone like this in my life is what dreams were made of. I said ‘John, COME GET YOU SOME!’ I decided at the parade that I was going to marry this woman! I found something else that I wanted and someone that would make my life complete! And we are now married!
It’s not like everything was perfect. Within there, between the engagement and marriage, I found out I had a brain tumor. But from the renewal of the closeness of my family and friends from home and college for when I moved back home and my new future family and friends in Tampa, I knew what I needed to do. Even though I was nervous, scared and even cried a few times, I needed to make that tumor my bitch. And I did. It was removed less that 8 months ago and somehow I am back to about as normal as I ever was and am going to be.
And not too long ago, I found out that I am having a baby in January. My wife and I are so lucky to have found each other and have this 2nd life together. This wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t look at what dreams are made of, live my dreams, and come get me some!!!!
COME GET YOU SOME!
Johnny ‘Chester’ Cochol
This guy is a legend. He is one of the happiest and most caring people I know. I am so happy for him and feel blessed to have him in my life. And in this story, he shares some very good lessons, all of them intertwined in a way.
- When one door closes, another door opens (cliche or not… it’s real)
- Take chances. Life will not be handed to you, sometimes you need to stick your neck out. Go after what you want and… Come Get You Some!
- Do what makes you happy. If you are unhappy, you are on the wrong path, people! And that’s OK… as long as you find your way back to your happiness. We all tend to wander, but do not lose sight of you and your goals.
- Life will throw you curve balls, but it would be a damn boring game if it were predictable.
- Friends and family, the real ones, will always be your foundation, your rock. Don’t take them for granted.
We all get to where we need to go at a different speed. I am still trying to figure out where I am going and where I want to be. No shame in that because I am still enjoying the ride. But maybe, I should take a few more chances because I do not want a life of ‘what-ifs’ and ‘should haves.’
Johnny, can’t wait to see you again and sing with you…
Hey now, hey now! This is what dreams are made of! And This. Is. Thirty.